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Our “Colors” and What They Mean

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Words spoken to people only account for a small portion of what is discussed between one person to another.  You get a much more significant picture of what is being communicated by being aware of both verbal and nonverbal communication. Knowing the nonverbal clues of colors boosts your understanding of yourself and others.

Here is a detailed description of the colors we use and what they mean. We use GREY, GREEN, RED, and BLUE as our behavior descriptions. (They are easy to remember.)

BLUE

Body Posture:

They will be relaxed while conveying personal confidence.  Shoulders are back, sure-footed and lack rigidity.

The Manner of Movement:

When they move, it is intentional.  They can sprint if it is necessary; however, they slow down quickly when it is needed.  Their movements are congruent with who they are and what they are doing.

You will find calm in BLUE.  You will see calmness in others eyes as they are relaxed. In their communication, you feel a sense of flexibility.  You will sense their openness to fun exchanges along with a serious discussion. If you ever talked to someone in BLUE, you will see a pleasant and inviting voice.  You are drawn to them as you want to feel part of that calm and peace.  You can see this balance filled with confidence.  With a smile always on their face, you can experience the joy and enlightenment they bring.

GREY

Body Posture:

They have slumped shoulders and had a head-fish like a handshake.

The Manner of Movement:

There will be minimal movement and will wander around.  You will also notice them doodle or shuffle papers.  Movements will lack direction.

When you look at someone in a gray area of their life, you may know a person who feels “down.”  Possibly depressed. (Maybe all the time, maybe not.)  They probably feel out of place and might even look that way.  Their head is hanging down, eyes are down, and arms are hanging limply.  They likely feel very uncomfortable.

GREEN

Body Posture:

A person in GREEN will be tight and trying to take as little space as possible.  Their shoulders are shrunken inward, and hands are to the face and hair.  Always holding something close to guard their body.

The Manner of Movement:

Always quick with accomplishing tasks while ensuring no one is in the way.  They may even mimic the movement of others in their environment.   You will see their hand-wringing or fidgeting.  They may shift from side to side and are always clearing their throat.

Notice their movements and the tone of their voices.  Not wanting to disappoint anyone they try to figure out what you wish for in hopes of keeping you from being apprehensive. When someone is in the GREEN, it is others that may show tension.

RED

Body Posture:

They are rigid, puffed up and taking as much space possible.  Their hands are away from the body, and their hands may be behind the neck.  RED likes to stand while everyone else is in their seats.   You will notice that there are no movements at the waistline when they walk.

The Manner of Movements:

They are intentionally heavy footed and put their feet down with power.   When you receive a handshake from someone who is in RED their calm is down during the handshake.

You will find they disregard their environment. When someone is in RED, they are on a mission.  Usually, they are not happy with something that happened and are determined to find out who is at fault.  With piercing eyes and puffed up neck and cheeks you can see they mean business.  They will have their arms away from the body, and when you hear their loud voice, you will have a clue of someone in RED.

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The first rule of using the our “Color Model.”

  1. Be in the BLUE yourself and when you are not sure about someone else’s color, treat them as if they are in the BLUE. BLUE is contagious. If you are issuing an invitation to BLUE, others will often accept. You will feel better and so will they.

Perhaps the greatest of all the benefits is the reminder of how behaviors other than BLUE indicate the presence of stress in a person.  It is that simple.  When you detect someone is in a state other than BLUE, they are expressing a response to pressure.  Although you may not like it, it is best to bypass being judgmental and understand their behavior.

Observe people in different colors and notice the simple things such as how they hold their head or the motion of their hands and arms.  What about their eyes, what are they doing?  All these signs turn out to be one neat package that you can trust to be harmonious and helpful for both the listener and observer.  With this pure knowledge, you will know which approach to take with different types of people such as directive, supportive or participative.

What do these everyday colors say about people?  To simplify things, it is as easy as looking at it like this: gray will tell people “whatever,” while GREEN will say “I’m so sorry.”  Although we also have the color RED that says, “who messed up this time.”  However, understanding the colors and messages they hold will be more conclusive than any words can say by themselves.

GREY, GREEN, and RED are not who people are.  It is their response to stress. Judging and blaming them for being stressed makes no sense. Be a facilitator to invite them back to being their best – being BLUE.

One of the great things about knowing these color descriptors is the confidence you will achieve.  This confidence will transfer to your job, the way you approach co-workers when you need help and planning for the resolution of conflicts.

Through a lot of self-research of colors through nonverbal clues, you will see a boost in your Relating Effectiveness Quotient – REQ.  When you think about it, this is like a shortcut to better understand others such our friends, family, coworkers or just someone you met on the street.

Through this understanding, you can bypass being judgmental.  You know Gray, GREEN, and RED are not who people are.   Instead, it is their response to stress.  Blaming and judging them does not make any sense.  The best way to handle it is by inviting them back to achieving their best by being BLUE. BLUE is contagious.

Don’t worry about what color others are wearing.  Sometimes we do not know anyways.  Instead, be BLUE yourself and treat everyone as if they are BLUE.

You are inviting them to this joyous party, and often they will accept this great invite.  You will feel better and so will they.   Let this color captivate the heart of others and spread it to as many people you can.

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Benefits Emotional Intelligence Training

The Benefits of Balancing your EQ and IQ with Emotional Intelligence Training

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The Basics

Emotional intelligence revolves around the idea of understanding and being in control of your emotions during different situations. Your EQ (Emotional Quotient) and IQ (Intelligence Quotient) need to function together for you to be a complete individual.

I am sure you must be wondering, why do we need to adapt to this new idea of achieving a balanced EQ and IQ level? Well, the second decade of the new millennium is almost over and tricks of all trades have changed! There are new ways, theories, and motives. In order to achieve these, you have got to adapt. People have become more conscientious and you have got to get with the times. Understanding this need alone is going to solve a lot of your problems. IQ does not stand for much without EQ because for a positive and sustainable outcome, it is very important to be able to implement your IQ in the most comprehensive way possible, for others to perceive it and generate work and results from the way you want them to. Emotional Intelligence Training basically teaches you how to get work done in a progressive, constructive, yet maintainable manner.

The Foundation of Emotional Intelligence Training

The foundation of Emotional Intelligence training lies in your Personal and Social competence; a set of skills that you need to wrap your head around in order to partake in Emotional Intelligence training:

  1. Personal Competence:
  • Self-awareness- this is the most important skill of all because to get up and do something about a problem, you need to be aware of it in the first place and only then can you actually work out how to go about things.
  • Self-regulation- understanding your own moods and patterns as to how they function and what kind of emotion is triggered by what sort of stimuli is necessary. With this kind of understanding, you can work towards managing these feelings for the betterment of any situation.

 

  1. Social Competence:
  • Empathy- perceiving the other person’s feelings and understanding them according to their individual circumstances is of utmost importance in Emotional Intelligence Training. The ability to anticipate the other person’s emotional standing enables us to be in touch with our own feelings and develop an understanding of why we feel the way we do and whether it affects the people we interact with.

 

  • Social Skills- although the term may sound very broad and may have its own intricacies, it is the key to settling into any environment. Your aptitude for communication in an open and affable manner is going to make things easier at your space of work, at home, and of course, socially! Once you get the social skills ball rolling, you will find it easier to deal with people in all environments and use this to achieve your goals.

These skill sets are the footing for principles such as:

 

  • Empathy; understanding the feelings of another enables you to understand your own mindset.

 

  • Trust; building trust not just with others but with yourself is equally important for your work ethic and personal morals.

 

  • Communication; People will take you more seriously if you can put your vision across in a way for everybody to understand.

 

  • Approachability; being an amicable presence will not just create a workable environment for your colleagues, but also help you to learn new things.

 

  • Tolerance to change and Flexibility; not all change is good, but it is up to you to judge if something is good enough for the circumstances then there is no harm in implementing new ideas.

 

  • Punctuality; being on time is the most basic life skill you can have because it creates a lasting impression.

 

  • Anger and stress management; keeping your anger under control is the best way to go about things because it is always a better idea to solve the problem rather than to dwell on it and achieve nothing.

 

  • Assertiveness and accountability; although the aforementioned skills are of paramount significance, don’t forget that to achieve, you have got to take responsibility and be assertive so that people don’t take you for a ride.

 

All in all, these skills and attributes are a necessity for the personal development process. Social and Emotional Learning is not a new age technique, they are basics that high EQ leaders follow to aim, achieve and conquer the personal, social, and professional front of life.