Emotional Intelligence




Your Communication / Emotional Intelligence is important because it is an important component in the overall measurement of your intelligence. We have been following this for a long time. However, you may have noticed that a person with a high IQ is not doing the best professionally or personally.

That is because “book smarts” is not the only thing that matters. For years, we have only paid heed to exams, test results, and what not, because we feel that was the key to success. Having a high IQ is extremely helpful, but there is more to success than that. So, What has been missing?

Communication / Emotional Intelligence is your ability to perceive knowledge, learn from it, and then use it when needed. There are a variety of bits and pieces that combined, make up “intelligence”:

The Communication / Emotional Intelligence of an individual is what has been missing from the system. Your ability to understand various situations and respond to them in an effective manner to achieve optimum results. So, how to measure Emotional Intelligence? Well, there are five domains that form your EQ:

  • Self-awareness: This is the knack of recognizing your emotions as and when they take place.
  • Self-regulation: This is the command over your emotions in terms of managing impulsive reactions that may not be so wise.
  • Motivation: This is what drives you to achieve whatever aims you have set for yourself.
  • Empathy: This is your personal intuition as to what the other person may be feeling and how you can manage the situation positively.
  • Social Skills: These are skills you will need to interact with people and make an impact on your personality.

Understanding these aspects of your behavior will help you understand yourself better. When you understand yourself, it becomes easier to understand various scenarios and different sorts of people.

Having said that, it is important to note that people have their own personality. The aim is not to become the same as everyone else. The idea is to hone your own qualities and skills for a greater purpose, peace, and positivity. The assesment we have put together takes into account the five main domains of EQ. It will help you in analyzing your attributes and inclinations for you to judge. It is true that we are our best critics.

Staying Balanced

Staying Balanced

An excellent way of staying balanced is by considering your level of happiness.  Using a scale of 1 to 10 you can ask yourself,

“How happy are you?”

Start segregating what makes you happy and determine where there are gaps in your everyday life that keeps you from experiencing ongoing happiness or even joy.

Project in your head scenarios of “What if.”

  • For a GREEN back up, what if they said “No” more often to requests that they don’t want to do?
  • A RED backup may say, what if I scheduled time with each of my children individually as I want to spend time with them instead of working so many hours?
  • A GRAY backup may say, what if I did not let a weekend go by without at least one hour with no noise, no people, and no interruptions?

By setting up more balance, everyone will win.  Contrary to our rationalizations about the compulsions that perpetuate imbalance, getting one’s life in balance creates more wins for everyone.  It is an excellent place to start.

Steps to Staying Balanced

When considering what it means to be balanced, look at all aspects of living fully.

  1. career choices,
  2. family satisfaction,
  3. physical well-being,
  4. spiritual development,
  5. social and recreational outlets, and
  6. measurement of self-sacrifice.

This is a personal journey.  One size does not fit all.  Each person will come up with his and her formula.

For instance,

  • Some may find career fulfillment in research, accounting, engineering, or computer programming.  These are a few examples of balanced matches for those who have a GRAY backup style.
  • Some draw to social work, counseling, nursing, teaching, and customer contact positions due to their GREEN backup style.
  • Managers, business owners, law enforcement personnel, and military assignments are all examples of matches for those who have a RED backup style.

Sad is the day when a gray backup clergyperson receives a task to a congregation that values fellowship, social gatherings, and group work.  Likewise, a green backup who draws the shipping job where there is no people contact.  While the red reserve whose job is repetitive work with no need for new methods or leadership skills.  These are examples of career choices that stand a high chance of being out of balance resulting in a lot of unhappy people.

Spiritual Wellbeing

Spiritual wellbeing interconnects with all the other regions as a guiding force and a dominant presence. No area considered for the overall balance is isolated.  Each has a direct and indirect relationship will all the others.  Perhaps its most significant connection is with the area of self-sacrifice and generosity.

Family Happiness

Another example is how family happiness intertwines with career choices and satisfaction in a directly connected way.  Those who value close family relationships and value satisfying successful careers have an incredible challenge of setting up schedules, expectations, assignments, and objectives that lead to the desired family time thereby, bringing balance for the long term.

For example, a nurse who loves her job and wants to be available to her family works two twenty-four hour shifts during the week.  This works for her and fulfills her career and family ideals.

Physical Well-Being

Physical well-being impacts all areas of life.  Optimal physical health enhances decision-making, overall life outlooks, and contributes energy to career, family, and social activities.


Staying Balanced is a central theme in the lives of individuals who have achieved a degree of self-actualization and spend much of their time in the blue.  Staying Balanced might be another way of talking about being focused.

Think of it like a tightrope walker.  Balance on the center of the rope and concentrate forward will keep them from falling.

The same is also true with good employees, family members, friends, or spiritually-alive human beings who balance between too much and too little.  They are focused in a self-assigned direction, practicing and being comfortable in being proactive, resilient when waylaid, responsive and professional with others, and authentically acquainted with their unique talents and gifts.

Managing one’s balance is the result of mapping out a personal hierarchy.  What is your current relationship balance among career, family, physical well-being, spiritual development, social and recreational activities, and altruistic desires?

Is it what you want and what needs to change?

A strategy emerges, objectives surface, and a strategic plan of action make it all come to life.  This blueprint maps the way, assesses progress, defines needed corrections, and pinpoints implementation processes.

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